TWI #90

Taking Care

Pamyla Floyd

7/25/2012

I, like others (I’m sure), have said “I will cook beautiful meals for my husband every night”, or “I’m going to spoil my spouse to no end” or something similar. What did I say in English you ask? For example, Proverbs 18:22 says whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. In other words, we cannot expect to suddenly start doing a thing and continue it with excellence, if we have not already been walking in it. A man usually finds a woman who already exhibits wifely traits. Sure, she may become a ‘wife’ by title after she is married, but he recognized the ‘wife’ in her long before they thought about walking down the aisle.

If I am not taking the time to pamper my own feet, it would be silly for me to think that I will automatically begin to bathe, massage and lotion my husbands’. It sounds even sillier for me to say that I would iron my husband’s clothes before laying them out and sew on any missing buttons, if I am not Taking Care to do the same things for myself. Where we are now and where we are going have to start lining up. Remember, the shortest distance between two points is a straight line! We have to start taking care now.

If where we see ourselves going, does not line up with what we are doing now, there has to be a change. Why not start treating yourself to foot massages and manicures? Why not start experimenting with different dishes or taking train rides or just living the way, which you’ve have seen yourself in your dreams? People are attracted to those who exhibit the same traits or to those who are doing what they would like to do. If you are someone who wants to get married, and time is passing you by, get up, get moving and start changing some things.

If you don’t believe me, then pick up the next homeless man/woman you see. Why not? How do you know that they won’t immediately get cleaned up, get a job and become the person that you have been asking God for? Why does that scenario sound silly? If we aren’t taking care to live life to the fullest and be all that we were called to be, aren’t we in effect behaving like a homeless man/woman? I hope that you get the gist of what I am trying to get across. Ladies we all know that no woman in her right mind would spend years ‘dating’ a man that refused to work, marry him and then expect his whole demeanor to change. He has already shown you who he is.

Life is short and Jesus said that He came to give life and to give it more abundantly. We will never experience it in all its glory, if we won’t begin to take a leap of faith and live it. Are you maximizing your potential? To those we want to attract, we may seem to be standing still, because we refuse to stand out. And that is the way it is in life, people are always watching us, whether we know it or not.

Make a list of everything that you want in a mate. Be specific, God does not half step, and He does answer prayer. Now make sure to put down the character of the man/woman that you are interested in. I went over my list taking careful inventory of the man that I want to come into my life, and I had to ask myself “Self, are you such and such?” I came to realize that I was not ‘Taking Care’. I would have been a burden to the man of God, at that time in my life. There was no reflection of what I wanted to attract living inside of me. I could not have nurtured the relationship, and given it time to grow into something beautiful. I can honestly say that I would have sucked the life out of it and run him away. There was NO way for me to become one with the man of my dreams at that time of my life.

I knew that I needed help. I still had some growing up to do, so I sought out the Holy Spirit and asked Him to teach me how to change, become whole, and be the woman that God called me to be. That is how I came up with the name Claywoman. I’m still growing daily, and I thank God for His Holy Spirit, He is all John 14:26 says He is and more! I suggest that you get to know Him for yourself. So, are you really ready for that man/woman to come into your life? Be sure to take care!

God bless,

Pamyla